There’s almost no visibility issue that isn’t solved by overcoming the societal conditioning which says ‘Don’t take up too much space.’
When we’re afraid to take up space we might:
The kyriarchy has designed itself around straight, white, ably bodied men. That means it’s literally a subversive act to take up public space, or to be ‘too dominant’ in private spaces, if you don’t inhabit those labels.
When you’re deemed ‘other’ and move toward taking up space, the kyriarchy hits back claiming you’re too much, too bossy, too ambitious, too confronting, too controlling, too emotional, too angry.
The way to reverse that trend is for more and more members of the diverse majority – women, indigenous, black and people of colour, people with disabilities, and the LGBTIA community – to stop waiting for permission or an invitation to take up space.
Part of your visibility training has to be focused on getting comfortable with taking up space. Whether that’s online, in meetings, in conversations with friends and family, or in your community. It has to be about having other people see you, focus on your needs, and attend to you.
You do this in order to train yourself and to train others that your needs matter.
Because they do.